Correcting misunderstanding part II

I was going to post today something completely different, but as this topic was brought to my attention three times in the past few days, I decided to address this one first.
A few days ago I posted a post about correcting misunderstandings and the lack of confidence when a person tries to explain something.
Well, as I’ve received three e-mails from fellow bloggers inquiring if they were the reason I wrote that, I decided to come on here and clarify – correct a misunderstanding.

As those of you who have been following me for a while know, I have a son who likes to climb trees. He’s four – or will be in a few days, and he’s a pro monkey.
I also have a neighbor who thinks I’m not apt to be a mother because I’m blind.

So, like I do most days, the other day I let my son play outside while I cleaned my kitchen. Like some of you already know, my kitchen window faces the tree my son likes to climb, so while he’s out there playing, I can hear him. But instead of climbing that tree, my son climbed the fig tree, which is covered with slippery moss.
He fell, scraped his hands and knees.
I didn’t take him inside, afraid that someone would notice he fell, but I stayed with him outside while he cried, hugged and kissed him. His hands and knees weren’t wet with blood, so it was really nothing but a few scrapes.
And of course my neighbor saw that.
I owe her no explanations, and if my son fell off the tree it was not because I’m blind and can’t tell his whereabouts.
But as I was checking on his sister in the living room when he fell, I couldn’t tell he had moved from tree to tree.
I believe not even someone who could see would have been able to tell, seeing that the living room is on the other side of the house.
It was my reply, the way I defended myself to my neighbor that bothered me. My son has been climbing trees since last summer, and although he did fall a few times, like the other day, it was nothing serious. Who has never scraped his knees and hands when playing?
I’ve been climbing trees since I was a youngling as well, and I’ve had my share of falls and adventures stuck on a tree while waiting for someone big enough to help me climb down.
My mother was never judged for that, and I don’t believe there’s anything wrong with letting your child play and explore what he likes to do.
My son was back on the tree within half an hour – the one facing the kitchen window, and I let him, confident that he knows how to climb up and down without any assistance. At least now he knows that fig tree is too slippery, and hopefully he has learned a lesson. Knowing him, I’m sure he’ll try again, because he’s the type who will keep after something until he can get it.

So, fellow bloggers, I was not talking about any of you, and this is not a continuation of a comment I left in anyone’s post.
I apologize if I made anyone uncomfortable with it, and trust me, if I had anything to say to a post, I would either leave a comment or drop you an e-mail.
If I don’t like what I read, I simply don’t leave a comment and I move on – and now you’re wondering about the lack of a comment, which could also mean I simply have nothing to say.

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37 Replies to “Correcting misunderstanding part II”

  1. Hi Jina,

    I hope your son is ok. That is so normal for kids. I fell a million times and I am ok now. The angels guard the children, and we can learn a lot from them. When they fall, they always get up,unlike adults !

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  2. My son is very much like yours and has been climbing since, probably the day he could walk. He has fallen enough times to know how to climb safely, well apart from the incident when he climb up the garden gate and tried to escape. I believe for that one, I was gone for a whole 30 seconds before he was up and trying to get out. It happens to everyone, especially if you have a climber

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  3. I fell 100 times while climbing trees as a kid (or jumping into shallow creeks, or swinging on the tire swing, or chasing my siblings, or riding horses) 🙂 You are absolutely right in that scrapes and bruises are just part of a kid’s life while learning to explore the world! Sounds like your boy is alright and that’s what counts. We fall so we can learn to pick ourselves up.

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    1. But, in this case, I understand why you would defend yourself slash inform her that your little guy falling had nothing to do with your blindness.

      I would also tell her I’d be quite pleased if she would STFU or mind her own business but I’m not the one stuck living beside her. 😉

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      1. ah, not really.
        they think my mom is irresponsible for going on a vacation and leaving me and my kids behind. the fact that i let them run loose (which i did even with my mom present) is the reason for many phone calls to my brother.

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      2. Ugh. I’m sorry. Three kids by yourself is a lot on its own. I think you’re doing fine. If they’re so interested in whether you’re struggling, maybe they should just offer help instead of making you feel bad.

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  4. Hey! I finished The Awesome Blogger Award post. Thanks again for nominating us!

    Also, I’m really glad you son’s alright. I was never much of a tree climber, so I haven’t fallen from trees, but being particularly clumsy, I’ve fallen from quite a few other places.

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  5. It’s really normal for children to fall- especially when they love climbing- my nephews are all under 4 and there’s always one of them getting scraped knees and elbows because they’re so active (which is healthy and good for them). And when I was a child, I fell all the time- it’s no big deal! I think your neighbour is out of line and I’m sorry you had to deal with her.

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  6. Kids need to be able to explore and test themselves, Jina, something you obviously know. Goodness, that neighbor would have had a field day with my family. My parents were hauling us to the emergency room every month for stitches or broken bones. Parents who constantly warn and hover create fearful kids. I’m sorry that you have such a judgmental and uninformed neighbor. Your son sounds like a delight. 😀

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    1. He’s the snake candy boy. he’s a handful, and the most active of my three. and he already made me lose a few years of my life.

      my mom seldom took us to the hospital. we always had some sort of injury, she learned how to take care of them on her own – unless there were broken bones.
      thanks for dropping by.

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  7. Wow! What an overbearing, nosy neighbour! I completely agree with you on this. And kids should absolutely climb trees, and do all manor of crazy, dangerous things. How else do they learn their limits, or more importantly what they are capable of?

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      1. I was partially sighted since birth so as I was having my 4, I was transitioning into the blind world. I had them all within 6 years and are all now aged between 14 and 20 so not small anymore. I look after my 2 year old granddaughter a lot now too and love it 🙂.

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